Today while giving a Reiki session, the words, “What’s good?” came into my head. As I wasn’t thinking about anything in particular, save the feel of the energy, I knew it was an important message.
I said to my client, who is struggling with ongoing guilt, that in every situation is an opportunity for us to find the good in it. Even when things suck. Even when something feels terrible, that’s only our assessment of it, and we can choose to find the good.
So – at first, asking “What’s good?” might ilicit a snarky, “Nothing! This sucks!” comeback from our mind. But then, ask again. “What’s good?” What possible good can be found in this situation?
Begrudgingly, the mind may offer something small. It might start with, “Well, at least it wasn’t worse.” It might be, “I got through it somehow.” It might even be followed by the word, “but” and a reiteration of the tough side of things again, as if it’s necessary to reaffirm the bad part. It’s funny how we tend to cling to the bad as if it’s giving us bragging rights.
Again, though, come back to, “What’s good?” And there may be more that you can think of. Maybe something you’ve learned from the experience. Maybe some experience you can share with someone else so they don’t suffer as you did. Maybe you’re wiser, smarter, or stronger because of this experience. These are all good things.
The more we focus on the good, the more we feel goodness is the focus of our lives. The suffering shrinks in comparison eventually, as we spend more time seeking, finding, acknowledging, and then being grateful for those good things.
And that moves us toward a more enlightened way to live.
Wishing you all good things.
Today while giving a Reiki session, the words, “What’s good?” came into my head. As I wasn’t thinking about anything in particular, save the feel of the energy, I knew it was an important message. I said to my client, who is struggling with ongoin…
Getting in touch with your spiritual side can enhance your sexual experiences too. Here’s why.
First, let’s talk about the spiritual connection. Practicing any sort of spiritual practice – such as meditation, Reiki, energy healing practices of other kinds, etc. makes you aware of something outside yourself that is also connected to yourself.
More than that, this spiritual energy that you’re connected with is ALSO you. That’s the Duality of Being. (And also the Unity.) What I mean here is that we are all one, conscious energy that is having an individual experience. Every life form on the planet, every plant, animal and person, is having a conscious, individual experience, and is connected to each other at the very same time.
If you’re still with me, you may be wondering why a singular conscious energy would want a zillion or so different individual experiences. That’s where it gets interesting. The illusion of an individual experience is for experiencing and learning.
If the One energy source was only that, it would not be able to learn or experience anything. In order to experience anything, that experience is a reaction to something outside ourselves. If it’s outside ourselves, it is not perceived as us. Even if we experience pain in our stomachs, that pain feels like something “other” than our “normal” selves. Experience is a reaction.
Now, becoming aware of being both an individual experience and something much, much bigger is a powerfully spiritual experience. It allows us to step outside ourselves to see our individual emotions from a more objective perspective. We can analyze our experiences without them defining us.
By now, you’re probably wondering what the heck this has to do with sex. I will get there. Hang with me for another moment.
When we are able to step outside of ourselves and observe the ways in which we interact in this illusionary reality, we are living as our true aspect – that of Spirit. We are not caught up in the storm of emotions or the trappings of ego. What is Spirit really? Love. Pure love. That’s what the One energy source that is our true essence is made of.
So, in a nutshell, we are Love experiencing and learning by completely empathizing with each individual consciousness. We are capable of shifting our perspective through meditation, for example, to be that One consciousness, and send love to our little individual selves as we live, learn, and try to make sense of everything we are experiencing.
We can also have compassion for other people, and empathize with them. That is a beautiful quality, a spiritual one. It makes the world better.
And here, finally, is the connection to sex. Good job making it this far.
The more we are aware of this spiritual connection throughout the day, the more we connect with the essences of it – gratitude, love, compassion – in short, the more we elevate our existence in this way, then the more our lovemaking naturally becomes influenced by this idea. Because, the natural compassion we are used to having extends to the lover during that time.
If we focus on our partner during sex, paying close attention to how the partner is responding to touch of every kind, and adjusting our touch to what is obviously pleasurable to the partner, we are empathizing with that person as that person is experiencing it. We, ourselves, can share their pleasure while participating in creating it. In doing so, we are experiencing being spiritually one with that person – creating a much higher level of lovemaking.
The soul of sensuality is very spiritual.
And that’s the message I got today.
Getting in touch with your spiritual side can enhance your sexual experiences too. Here’s why.First, let’s talk about the spiritual connection. Practicing any sort of spiritual practice – such as meditation, Reiki, energy healing practices of other kin…
I’ve been thinking lots about the meaning of life. I guess it’s my ongoing thing to do this. I’ve always been a seeker of spiritual connection. The new insight I’ve got is what I put in the graphic to the left. And here’s the question – how to “li…
It’s my birthday!
- I published 5 books.
- I started and completed the first part (Bachelor’s degree) of a Metaphysical Ph. D program with the University of Sedona.
- I started an author website for myself (AliceLangholt.com).
- I became certified to officiate weddings (I’m booked for two weddings in 2016!)
- I created a new idea to make 2016 more meaningful for everyone.
- One daughter became a Bat Mitzvah (I threw the party – that was a lot of planning!)
- Another daughter spent a month at Brandeis University over the summer.
- I made it through a season as a Marching Band Mom.
- My son started going to a magnet middle school for the highly gifted student.
- I went to Iowa on a Transcendental Meditation Retreat.
- I was in a musical with all four kids and my husband.
- And lots, lots more. What an amazing year!!
I also started realizing some deep, spiritual things about life. That’s the biggest part for me. My studies, and introspection, have led me to understand that there is a true essence of who we are. This true essence is not our thoughts, not our feelings, not our bodies. It’s not our experiences, or even our gifts and talents. All of those are like clouds- they pass along. What stays? What is underneath all of that? The part that’s left is the part that I am when I’m offering Reiki to another person – because that’s the part that connects us all to each other. It’s not a part, really, it’s the real me. Bigger than any perception of individuality.
|My first tattoo.|
I’m getting up on my soapbox now, because I’m disturbed. Here goes:
If you allow anger at a hunter to make you into a hunter, how are you any better than the hunter himself?
Here’s a question. Dig down deep and see if you can hear an answer. How would Love respond? How can we model for our children an appropriate way to deal with righteous indignation and outrage? Here’s a hint: not by supporting vigilante justice, and not by encouraging violence against the perpetrator.
Publishing his address all over the net, death threats against him, his family, and his staff…those doing this have become hunters themselves. I’m disturbed by all of you.
Let’s do better, people. This is not what our country is about, not what we are trying to preach. This is not what we, as people who want more kindness in the world, are here to do.
Frankly, is this the way we want to be treated if we do something that someone else decides is deplorable? How would we want to be treated if we massively fucked up?
I’m not in any way condoning what he did. I agree that what he did was awful in every way.
I’m asking everyone to stop and think of the best way to respond which models the ethical behavior we are trying to promote.
Got any suggestions? Please comment here.
Well, it’s 2015. And already, a lot has happened in my life. (And, warning, this is a super link-happy post. So, click on whatever you want to know more about.)
- I wrote and published 2 books and a new deck of cards (coming soon).
- I started a new brand and website, A Moment for Me, and got the books on Amazon too.
- My 9 month intensive training program, Lightworkers Intensive, sold out and began its new year.
- All of the above got started in addition to the usual business of running my school, growing my practice, volunteering for Hospice, and taking care of my kids.
At the end of August, I had the wonderful opportunity of teaching Practical Reiki at the Lily Dale Assembly in Lily Dale, NY. It was a fantastic time. The class was the largest number I’ve ever taught in one group. Their ages ranged from 19 to about 80…