The Year is Ending, but Not the World. Here’s How to Remember That.

The US election has been overwhelming. First, all of the relentless campaigning and social media overload. Then, add to that the way people were angry at each other, the increase in crime, and just a lot of energetic noise. The election results, unstab…

How Being Spiritual Puts the Soul in Sex


Getting in touch with your spiritual side can enhance your sexual experiences too. Here’s why.

First, let’s talk about the spiritual connection. Practicing any sort of spiritual practice – such as meditation, Reiki, energy healing practices of other kinds, etc. makes you aware of something outside yourself that is also connected to yourself. 

More than that, this spiritual energy that you’re connected with is ALSO you. That’s the Duality of Being. (And also the Unity.) What I mean here is that we are all one, conscious energy that is having an individual experience. Every life form on the planet, every plant, animal and person, is having a conscious, individual experience, and is connected to each other at the very same time. 

If you’re still with me, you may be wondering why a singular conscious energy would want a zillion or so different individual experiences. That’s where it gets interesting. The illusion of an individual experience is for experiencing and learning

If the One energy source was only that, it would not be able to learn or experience anything. In order to experience anything, that experience is a reaction to something outside ourselves. If it’s outside ourselves, it is not perceived as us. Even if we experience pain in our stomachs, that pain feels like something “other” than our “normal” selves. Experience is a reaction. 

Now, becoming aware of being both an individual experience and something much, much bigger is a powerfully spiritual experience. It allows us to step outside ourselves to see our individual emotions from a more objective perspective. We can analyze our experiences without them defining us. 

By now, you’re probably wondering what the heck this has to do with sex. I will get there. Hang with me for another moment.

When we are able to step outside of ourselves and observe the ways in which we interact in this illusionary reality, we are living as our true aspect – that of Spirit. We are not caught up in the storm of emotions or the trappings of ego. What is Spirit really? Love. Pure love. That’s what the One energy source that is our true essence is made of.

So, in a nutshell, we are Love experiencing and learning by completely empathizing with each individual consciousness. We are capable of shifting our perspective through meditation, for example, to be that One consciousness, and send love to our little individual selves as we live, learn, and try to make sense of everything we are experiencing. 

We can also have compassion for other people, and empathize with them. That is a beautiful quality, a spiritual one. It makes the world better. 

And here, finally, is the connection to sex. Good job making it this far. 

The more we are aware of this spiritual connection throughout the day, the more we connect with the essences of it – gratitude, love, compassion – in short, the more we elevate our existence in this way, then the more our lovemaking naturally becomes influenced by this idea. Because, the natural compassion we are used to having extends to the lover during that time.

If we focus on our partner during sex, paying close attention to how the partner is responding to touch of every kind, and adjusting our touch to what is obviously pleasurable to the partner, we are empathizing with that person as that person is experiencing it. We, ourselves, can share their pleasure while participating in creating it. In doing so, we are experiencing being spiritually one with that person – creating a much higher level of lovemaking.

The soul of sensuality is very spiritual.

And that’s the message I got today.

Reiki Awakening Reiki blog by Alice Langholt

I don’t need scientific proof

I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t care about scientific proof that Reiki, or life force energy, or chakras, or angels, or guides, or ancestors, spirits, or any energetic forces exist. I just don’t care what scientists have to say about their validity or not.

I see posts on Facebook saying that Science has Proven that the Aura is Real! Give me a break. I can feel the aura pulsing when I give Reiki. I can tell where it starts and I can find the areas where it is damaged. I can feel energy changing frequency when it’s healing itself. 

I don’t need science to validate my work, my beliefs (which come from experience), or the results that Reiki can offer.

I also don’t need science to proclaim that human thought creates changes. I already know. I have manifested more results in my life through the power of intention and expectation than I can list. 

I have arrived at a place in my own life where I trust my experiences, listen to my intuition, and guide my life based on those signals. And, it’s working.

If you’re waiting for science, I would advise you to stop wasting your time. Live. Listen to your innermost knowing. Give it a chance to tell you what’s real, to show you your Truth. And then see what happens when you do.

#MikeDrop

Reiki Awakening Reiki blog by Alice Langholt

Power Manifesting


When I have a few minutes alone (usually in the shower or in the car), I mentally place myself in the role of CEO of my life. (Because I am, after all.)

Then I call an Executive Staff Meeting of my Guides and Angels. In my mind, I sit at the head of the conference table, or behind a big, fancy desk in my awesome office. I always begin the meeting by thanking my hard working staff for the things that have been going great lately. For example, “I’d like to thank you all for bringing me that new Reiki client this week. She really loved her session and we had a great conversation too. And, great job on that store that purchased 10 copies of A Moment for Teachers. It’s really exciting to know that my book’s out there!” I keep going with the thanks until I’ve listed everything since our last meeting.

Next, I tell my team what the latest projects are, and hand over assignments. For example, “Ok, Team, it’s crunch time for My Moments of 2016. I’ve got Google Ads, Facebook ads, YouTube, Reddit, and Google+ posts, plus I’ve been sending out those newsletters. I’m assigning you to shine the rosy glow over those, and direct the right people to register to make this year wonderful for them. Guides, I’m ready for new ideas on this, so be sure to let me know what else would be most effective. Secondly, there are still a couple spots left for the Lightworkers Intensive Program. Angels, help fill those seats with the people who will complete this important group, and Guides, speak with the Guides of those people so they know it’s time. And, finally, I’m ready for any other nice surprises you have in store, and abundance from those unlimited channels available. Thanks, everyone! You are SO awesome and I know you’re on the job!”

Finally, I dismiss the meeting and stay present for guidance and noticing the things to add to the “Good Work” list for tomorrow’s meeting.


Why this works:

Manifesting technique requires some essential ingredients. They are: Gratitude, knowing and naming what you want (specifically the end-results), and expecting they are already coming into your life. All pieces are present in this easy “Board Meeting.” 
I like keeping things simple. Not that there’s anything wrong with vision boards, or a more complicated or longer process if that resonates with you. But basically, the creative force of the universe works by those simple steps. So, make sure that whatever method you choose includes them.
Try this and leave a comment about how it works for you!
Peace.

Reiki Awakening Reiki blog by Alice Langholt

46- My Birthday Tattoo

It’s my birthday!

Today also marks 8 years of blogging. 

Every year, I blog on my birthday. It helps me look back over the past birthday posts to see where I was, and realize what an amazing year it’s been – and then I think about how I’ll look back next year and be even more amazed.

In year 45, these things happened:
  • I published 5 books.
  • I started and completed the first part (Bachelor’s degree) of a Metaphysical Ph. D program with the University of Sedona.
  • I started an author website for myself (AliceLangholt.com).
  • I became certified to officiate weddings (I’m booked for two weddings in 2016!)
  • I created a new idea to make 2016 more meaningful for everyone.
  • One daughter became a Bat Mitzvah (I threw the party – that was a lot of planning!)
  • Another daughter spent a month at Brandeis University over the summer.
  • I made it through a season as a Marching Band Mom.
  • My son started going to a magnet middle school for the highly gifted student.
  • I went to Iowa on a Transcendental Meditation Retreat.
  • I was in a musical with all four kids and my husband.
  • And lots, lots more. What an amazing year!!

I also started realizing some deep, spiritual things about life. That’s the biggest part for me. My studies, and introspection, have led me to understand that there is a true essence of who we are. This true essence is not our thoughts, not our feelings, not our bodies. It’s not our experiences, or even our gifts and talents. All of those are like clouds- they pass along. What stays? What is underneath all of that? The part that’s left is the part that I am when I’m offering Reiki to another person – because that’s the part that connects us all to each other. It’s not a part, really, it’s the real me. Bigger than any perception of individuality.


And so, I ask myself, what IS this real me made of? What characteristics does it have? It is not emotions, thoughts, or matter. What IS it? 

Love. It’s love. 

I know this because from a deep, spiritual place of knowing, comes the understanding that Love is what heals. Love is what soothes. Love is what we are when we’re doing and being our very best selves. 

A few months ago, I woke in the morning with the words, “Live Love” in my mind. I turned those words over and over. The real me is Love, so that’s who should live AS me. This Love, it’s infinite. 

I started to think of a design. An infinity sign, with the words Live Love entwined at the “v”. I sketched it out, and sent it to a graphic artist.

And… 
Yesterday, I got my first (and probably my only) tattoo. I did this because I want to wear my biggest, strongest insight and value. I want it to remind me daily, in its beauty and message, of who I am, so I can always come back to BEing Love.

Here it is (this is a real picture of my arm, with fresh tattoo):
My first tattoo.
It stung a bit, but didn’t hurt as much as I was afraid it might. I have also been applying Reiki liberally to help it heal, along with the other care instructions my artist gave me.

Something even nicer is that my husband, Evan, got his first tattoo too. He got an OM symbol, chosen for the same basic reason – because he meditates, and the word OM represents the sound that is all things – the infinite. This is his own way of expressing it. We both got tattoos placed a couple inches below the wrist. And we did it together. So we’re sharing another bonding experience – and I love that.

Immediately after getting the tattoo, I met a new Reiki client at my office for a session. It was wonderful for us both. Last night, I took my daughters out to dinner (the guys were volunteering for the Salvation Army Angels and then at the basketball game at Verizon Center). Right before I paid the tab, an amount just more than my tab arrived in my paypal account. I was blessed, at the perfect time, with the opportunity to send a distance healing. 

So far, 46 is turning out to be an epic year. 
Reiki Awakening Reiki blog by Alice Langholt

The Hard Side of Volunteering for Hospice – it’s Not What You Think

Before I moved to Maryland from Ohio two years ago, I volunteered giving Reiki at The Cleveland Clinic, and The Gathering Place (a support center for people touched by cancer). Adding volunteer time to my life has been a wonderful and fulfilling activity. I get to know people, and do something really helpful, for which I feel so grateful. 

After moving to Maryland, I sought out volunteer opportunities where I could offer Reiki. I found JSSA Hospice, and they welcomed me. I’ve been a volunteer at for JSSA for a year now. I am assigned patients, go to them where they are living, and give them Reiki once a week. It’s been a very meaningful experience, and I’m really glad to have the opportunity to do this work. 

Lately, though, in my hospice volunteer position, I’ve been seeing patients who are, basically, “in limbo.” They’re not actively dying. They’re not really “living” either. It’s a tougher experience. 

See, some of my patients before were basically ok, considering their diagnosis. They’ve been diagnosed with 6 months or fewer to live, and are still capable of having a conversation, and telling me where it hurts, and how the Reiki helps. We’ve laughed together sometimes, and really enjoyed our time. 

Other patients, (or eventually, the same ones) were actively dying. I know how to help these people with Reiki too. The Reiki energy helps them feel more peaceful, breathe deeper, have less pain, and relax. Even if they can’t tell me, I can observe that the Reiki is helping.

My current patients are not in either situation. They are caught between worlds. They don’t speak, and rarely open their eyes. Their care and feeding are 100% done by the nurses and other staff. They don’t seem aware of my presence, and don’t respond to my words. I can’t tell how the Reiki is helping. I come, greet them, give Reiki, search their faces and bodies for signs of relaxation, or anything at all. It doesn’t usually seem evident.  

I’m struggling with this, because part of me is berating myself for wishing for some sort of reaction. “This isn’t about me,” my inner voice tells me. “I don’t need to observe a reaction or receive a ‘thank you’ to know that I’m doing something that matters. This is for my patients. It’s not important whether it’s a nice time for me.” 

I have given Reiki to many people with cancer, and wished that the Reiki could make them better. I have learned that it’s not about what I want. However, I do see that the Reiki is relieving pain and bringing a sense of peace and relaxation that is very helpful for them. So, in that way I can see some benefits happening, which helps. (Helps who? The patient, of course, but I think I’m really talking about it helping me. Helping me what? Helping me be reassured that I’m doing something that matters. Why do I need this? Don’t I know that I matter? Isn’t that an interesting chain of questions!)

This experience is different though – I can’t tell that it’s making a difference. I need to rely on my trust in Reiki, and my experiences giving Reiki to people who can tell or show me that it helps, to reassure me that what I’m doing is helping. This time, it’s about having faith. Faith has always been difficult for me without the direct experience to confirm it. Even years of being a Reiki practitioner, and getting tons of positive feedback doesn’t prepare me well for this. It still requires me to “just believe.” 

I know that my past experiences have proven to me that Reiki works. I don’t need to know how it works. I don’t need to know what it’s doing. I’m past that. 

I remind myself that I make a difference, every day. I matter. My words of love, my giving of time, my gifts of healing, they matter. 

Even by doing nothing, I matter. We all matter. Living matters because we all matter. Every life matters, and I know this. I know it in my soul. So, I do find it interesting that I need to sit and type this out to remind myself of what I’ve been teaching.

So, at these hospice visits, I take a deep breath. I show up. I say hello. I offer Reiki. I ask for peace and healing, for the highest and best, and I thank the Universe, my Guides and Angels, and Spirit for the ability to be of service.

And so it is. 

Reiki Awakening Reiki blog by Alice Langholt